The Dependability of Change

Originally Posted on January 14, 2013 by BJ Howell.

Change. It’s constant. It is the push and pull; the give and take; the grinding and molding into something different. Sometimes it is swift and other times it is slow, but it is always purposeful. It is one thing (besides the fear of not being loved) that most people are afraid of. Yet it is one of the few things in life that can definitely be depended on. Change will happen. You can fight it or flow with it, accept it, deny it, embrace it or run from it. It does not need your permission to happen. It does not consider your feelings or thoughts. It simply is what it is.

Accept that it is happening. One of the hardest things to do is give up control. Change demands that you do just that. But what you don’t realize is that it isn’t a complete surrender. You still have control over how you react, how you allow yourself to change for the sake of change, and how you readjust the direction of your intention.

Realize that it isn’t a battle. But it is much like an argument. If one person agrees or just stops participating, there is no argument. That’s not to say you give up, on the contrary, you fully participate, allowing yourself the flexibility to bend without breaking. Allow yourself permission to not be in total control, to not be fearful of the unknown, but to just BE…in that moment. Consciously being is key.

Stay in the present. It is easy to worry about what will happen, how it will effect you, what you need to do, all the little details that may or may not happen, etc. However, worrying is useless, unless there are immediate consequences. And there can never be immediate consequences for something that hasn’t happened yet. It’s like preparing for a car accident. How can you prepare for the unknown? There are too many bases to cover. It is impossible. In that regard, worrying does the opposite of what it is intended to do. It is intended to give us our control and power back by being prepared and being “in the know”. However, it further takes control away because every minute we worry, we lose that minute and opportunity to have the power to choose in the present. Use your energy to stay present. Choose the power of the present over the insecurity of worry.

Keep pressing forward. There is no life compass that tells everyone where to go, what to do, who to love, etc. It is the intentions of our heart and mind that allow us to continue on our journey. Discover a new normal to settle into. Set your goals, keep your eye on the prize and Be Empowered!