Month: April 2021

Teach. Demonstrate. Encourage.

Originally Posted on October 23, 2017 by BJ Howell. Three words that are so simple, yet can have a huge impact. This was my takeaway from this Sunday’s sermon. Teach. Demonstrate. Encourage.  It relates to everything that I do as a counselor/therapist, teacher, foster parent and now as a Christian. It is relationship...

Change and Fear…

Originally Posted on October 1, 2017 by BJ Howell. As the season changes and it gets a little chilly, I must remind myself that change is a good thing. I have not met many who have liked change (myself included) because there is a certain level of “the unknown” attached to it. ...

Election Blues? Shame On Me!

Originally Posted on November 11, 2016 by BJ Howell. This election took a toll on all of us.  Now that it is over, I sit confused at all of the words and opinions going back and forth. Why are so many people encouraging others to accept what is, and play nice when...

Worth the Wait

Originally Posted on June 21, 2016 by BJ Howell. Today, I’m trying to figure out how to have patience in an impatient world.  It seems like there is a cookie cutter invention for everything, producing quick fixes and causing more restlessness.  Everything is so quick, fast and in a hurry, with a...

The Hearts Intent

Originally Posted on March 7, 2016 by BJ Howell. I recently saw a post in my Facebook feed that read: “There are people who will take advantage of your kindness.   Selfishness is their problem, not yours… You must never change.”  It came at the right time, as lately, I have been...

Happy New Year!

Originally Posted on January 1, 2016 by BJ Howell. I pray that everyone has a happy and healthy 2016! 2016 “To Do” List□Love more□Hug more□Smile more□Give more□Fear less□Doubt less□Take risks□Be kind to self□Make room for fun□Spend time with a child□Love someone that seems unlovable□Be a blessing to someone else□Allow someone to be...

Love Deeply

Originally Posted on February 15, 2015 by BJ Howell.  As Valentine’s Day ends and the mundane day to day experiences return, it’s important to put things into perspective. Special days will come and go. It’s what goes on “in the trenches” that counts. Any relationship worth having will always, at its foundation,...

Anger: The Fire Within

Originally Posted on September 28, 2014 by BJ Howell. Recently I experienced an emotion that was new to me. Intense anger. Everyone feels anger at some point. It is a natural emotion and, as I tell my students and clients, it is okay to be angry. Denying yourself the right to experience...

Living Outside the Box

Originally Posted on February 1, 2014 by BJ Howell. I think it’s safe to say that most people like some sense of “normalcy”. Routine, habits, sticking with what’s known, etc. While that’s comfortable and safe, it’s not true living. If you follow my blog you will know that I like challenges. This...

Burning Down the House

Originally Posted on January 19, 2014 by BJ Howell. I did a exercise recently that truly opened up my eyes. It was called “Burning down the house”. Imagine that your house was on fire and everyone (people and animals) was safely out. You have an opportunity to grab 5 items…what would you...